In the Mood

"Honey, I’m not in the mood tonight... but I will be on Tuesday"

"Most female mammals go into some form of estrus, or arousal, when fertile, displaying hormone-induced behavioral changes that mark ovulation. Scientists used to think that humans were the exception, but evidence is mounting that women may undergo their own, albeit subtler, period of arousal." Scientific American Mind

Psychologist Geoffrey Miller, University of New Mexico, notes that this arousal does not mean promiscuous. "It’s a common misconception that females are always promiscuous during arousal," Miller says, "In most species females are being very choosy."

For busy couples this research provides valuable insight helping couples find both the time and the mood for connection. For women, being able to plan and anticipate a heightened period of arousal (being in the mood) for a specific 3 days to 1-week per month can help increase the chances of closing the time / arousal gap. Since you can anticipate that you will more likely be ‘in the mood’ during ovulation then simply anticipate and prioritize couple-time during your arousal cycle.

If time is a challenge perhaps setting couples dates on the calendar and protecting those dates from interferences would be helpful. Of course most couples are not content with intimate connection merely 1-week per month and both man and woman should be understanding if the chemistry does not happen as scheduled. This research may merely add to the possibilities of bringing time and arousal together a little more often... and that can be a good thing.

Larry Farris, BS, NLP

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Larry Farris is a White House trained sales and persuasion coach.